Several of my friends are in the process of moving.Â Some are going through divorces; others are wrapping up employment without clear-cut prospects of where they will be going next; some are embarking on theÂ adventure of building their “dream home.” All this can add up to stress upon stress.
This morning I received an email from one of my favorite podcast hosts, Krista Tippett.Â KristaÂ sent a link to one of her 2008 blog posts about the stress of moving.Â These were personalÂ thoughts as she wasÂ bothÂ moving andÂ preparing for an interview with Eckhart TolleÂ .Â
SheÂ reflects about the benefits ofÂ “being in the moment” – “being fully aware, alert, attentive to it, engaged in it.”Â Tolle noted that “stress is a symptom of not wanting to be in the moment weâ€™re in.”Â On the heels of hearing him say that, Krista realized thatÂ she was treating most of the events onÂ her moving â€œchecklistâ€Â as tasksÂ to be endured.Â She was looking at an entire week of herÂ life (the packing, the organizing, the moving out, the moving in) as a periodÂ she just had to soldier through to get to the other side.Â She thenÂ became aware that approaching it that way (in effect “steeling” herself not to be present) did raise a wall of stress in her, a palpable physical and emotional sensation.
But here was the surprise:Â she could immediately disarmÂ that, by leaning into the moment.Â SheÂ still had to pack that box,Â and it was notÂ the most exciting task ofÂ her life, and it was tiring at times, but it was not stressful.Â AsÂ she kept pulling herself back to thisÂ disciplineÂ time and again across the week,Â she even experienced “little unexpected epiphanies and joys”Â she wouldÂ utterly have missed inÂ her practiced â€œjust get it doneâ€ mode.
My prayer is that all my moving friends lean into the moment and experience grace and peace.
Rick Bonetti | 408-857-8800 | Alain Pinel Realtors | DRE #01237009